Wen,
I'm still not with this argument, you can only stand so much self punishment trying to appease others, before you're driven to the point of nearly ending your life , it's a road I intend never to take again.
As for what others think , whatever they do say or think isn't going to change what's locked inside our brains, besides the assumption is the people saying these things live perfect lives, without faults and weaknesses .
Yes I do use the past tense because of my age , it's why I say all those labels you used are mentally destructive , I don't know how long this window will be open to me, I'm still prepared to serve the male part of me, but I've made it clear part of that has now gone . Some of it is solely down to age and some to living the part I have suppressed for nearly fifty years . I really don't need to beat myself up over those labels, I've done it far too long, my gender counsellor was deeply concerned over the level of suppression I had lived with there was no suggestion of sweeping things under the carpet. To care about what other people think is almost irrelevant , and I have told my family this , It's the only way I will continue to function as human being.
None of us are beyond criticism but there are two sorts , destructive and constructive , there is far too much of the former and not enough of the latter, I've no intention of sheltering behind the shield of CDing , in fact I'm trying to do the opposite and be totally open and honest , I don't want it damage my relationships, I'm afraid others may end up doing that by throwing those labels in the mix.
