I've read all of the posts and there is certainly a lot of spot on observances. I'm about three years into DADT and here's what it's become. I don't have to hide anything anymore so my female wardrobe has grown tenfold. My wife still strongly feels that I'm just a deplorable pervert because of my crossdressing although she was open for anything when we met. It's referred to as my "prancing around" time. And it's been mentioned that we're now more like brother and sister. The relationship is loving and thoughtful now but, it's different. Interesting, after my first marriage and in between relationship, I was determined to find someone accepting or just remain single. And here I am married to someone who is unaccepting.
So, I'm holding on to hope that our DADT might just be a resting plateau to let acceptance catch up. She might soften up on it or, she might not. It is what it is.
