Reine, in my case for the simplest reason possible, we married quite young and were quite immature sexually, so it was many years before we shared out sexual fantasies. My wife was very happy to not talk about such things when we started out. She was very happy doing it but not talking about it. 22 years old probably don't have the true intimacy that you are talking about.
Years later when we did share fantasies I told her about that fantasy.
