Your story sounds so familiar to most of us, who are married or in a longtime relationship with a woman.
I'm married as well and my wife has the same problems dealing with it. In our case, that doesn't disappear through time. <My wife tolerates my needs when I go away for a day or two to dress up and go public, but she does NOT like it and she does not accept - only tolerates with difficulties.
However that's our agreement, never dressing around her or around our home town.
While going out on a regular basis, I've met quite a number or women who I talked to or they started talking to me. The dressing has been an issue almost with every woman. All of them expressed their respect for me and my presentation - however almost all of them told me, they would not be able to deal with crossdressing in their own relationship with a man.
No matter how tolerant a woman or person might be, when it comes to the personal life and gets close to one person, things get more difficult and complicated.
I wish you and your wife good luck and take much time....
