You have nothing to apologize for, honey. Nothing at all. You are a remarkable person, truly one in a million, in taking the patient and open-minded approach you have. You boyfriend is lucky to have you in his life. You can tell him that I said so and that he had better treat you like the treasure you are.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. That must have been difficult and scary. Fortunately, you have found a community of people who understand, intimately, what you and your boyfriend are going through.
I can add little to the excellent advice my sisters have shared already, so I will wish good luck in this new and very different chapter in your lives. I sincerely hope that it works out well for the two of you.
Hugs,
Kelly