This is a really great thread for me. I spent years working so hard to present the most bland and unremarkable male image possible that I made Ned Flanders look like a hippy.
I came out to my family (siblings) recently and now that they are ok I have dialed it down, but I am still finding it *really* difficult to do anything that I can't hide if need be (like get my ears pierced, which I have always wanted to do).
