Emi- you are so sweet to ask-
In addition to what was said, and "Are you gay, or transsexual? - which they may or may not even know, I think the main point is simply being caring.
The simplest thing my wife could ask me is "what are you feeling?" and let me answer without immediately interrupting to tell me why I should not be feeling that way. This is difficult if you see his feelings as leading to conflict with what you want, of course, but the initial feelings are often skewed by deprivation, so hopefully you can wait a bit to see how his feelings evolve in the atmosphere of your loving support.All I knew when I first came out to my wife was that I desperately wanted to wear certain clothes. Now I am able to articulate 5 things that are values I derive from crossdressing, none of which are threatening to my love for my wife, but are threatening to my wife who feels that men and women should stay in separate, cooperative worlds.
If the answer comes back about feeling like being a woman, or wanting to wear a bridal dress, or whatever, just log it in and ask again ain a few hours. Al lot of things just have to come out, and then they can be integrated into our real lives. Dressing choices evolve once we are free to choose.
Another is simply "What can I do to help? "
You could go online and look at discussion sites like this Forum or Quora https://www.quora.com/Why-do-I-as-a-...men-s-clothing or reddit, and get his view of what people are saying as the same or different.
There are occasions where cds become self-absorbed and obnoxious, and not responding in kind to your caring. But that is unusual, and a separate issue, akin to any other catastrophic relationship failure.
Thank you for trying to stay connected!
