What I appreciate the most from my wife is when she offers to help me look and dress better.
I appreciate it when she lets me know what her needs are from me as a man, and where her boundaries for my crossdressing are set.
I appreciate her efforts in understanding my needs, and setting time for me to dress up.
I appreciate the times when we can get glam together.
I have my own style and she has helped me to develop it.
I appreciate her input in what looks good, and what doesn't.
I appreciate it when I tell her about my life history - growing up thinking I was a bad person for crossdressing, and then her telling me that there's is nothing I need be ashamed about.