Many of us are NOT "TRYING TO BE WOMEN"----So "Not paying dues" is not an issue. The "other fulfilment" thing is the likely issue, although without one's own "personal analysis" what this other thing IS may be difficult to grasp. Also a lot of the cultural misconceptions and myths about cross dressing may further complicate getting insights, if one buys into them. I have discovered that I Cross-dress Primarily to ESCAPE my male self. And not that I really want to be or identify with women. By becoming totally, "another person" I find I get a "Rush" from breaking my identity bonds---which parts of the brain highly resist. AND getting away with such a "built in taboo" without "pain" tends to produce a HIGH many feel intoxicating.====Also being free from my responsibilities and those of "Manhood" permits me to entirely relax and unwind completely, psychologically.----Not to mention the good feeling of "Being pretty". There are MANY reasons for dressing and looking like a woman OTHER than identifying with them.
I can see how it can be confusing for many of us who have grown up thinking Crossdressing was something we did because we somehow identify with women------That gets in our way when we try to figure out what is really going on. Especially when, in our case, it really is not why we are crossdressing in the first place.
