Meeshell,
That is the learning curve what we see as feminine and what women do , personally I don't see it as high grading, most of us don't know when we have reached the end of the road so we just keep trying to do things better or should I say more natural , at least that's how I see it as I'm out full time .
If you speak to most women they are happy to be women , not all see it as a chore , not all enjoy the makeup and the clothes but they enjoy being women .
For those of us with dysphoria we have paid our dues in full , walking away from a 44 year marriage and risking losing everything in my case . Somehow I would be disappointed in myself and possibly others might if I didn't try and present myself as female as possible otherwise what was all the sacrifices about ?
I see my male lifestyle as living in a straightjacket , there is more pressure on a man to act the male part than there is on a woman .
I don't agree with Jodie's comment about thinking women are 2nd class citizens and I don't feel nowdays we are slapping a GG in the face . It's possibly our only way of dealing with an inner trait or should I say hidden which by dressing we expose to the World .
In a converation only last night another member of my social group said she felt proud being a transwoman , to put it into my words I'm totally happy being Teresa .