I wish the OP luck as well, they are going to need it. And I fully agree that it isn't an easy place to be.Originally Posted by ellbee
"I agree with almost everything you said. Except for the very last line..."
No, I'm not going to disagree. What you said is more than fair.
And totally understood.
>>SNIP<<
Anyway, the bottom line is, the OP has 2 choices: Do nothing, or do something.
And my point is, that first choice certainly has its own unique set of potential repercussions, as well.
Let off some of that "steam" in a steady & controlled manner, with all parties on board & geared up? Or, let that pressure build & build, until... What?? Because the alternative of doing nothing can potentially be even *more* dangerous & disastrous... Possibly waaaaay more than the other option.
No, it's not exactly an easy place to be, for sure.
I wish the OP all the luck.
However, let us examine your bolded statement above.
If we remove all the elements of CD-ing, extramarital sex, and homosexual overtones from the fantasy, for a moment.
Correct me if I'm mistaken, ellbee, but you seem to advocate acting out a fantasy as a sort of pressure release; and that it could be potentially disastrous to not fulfill the fantasy. But you neglect to mention that what is healthy for one, may be unhealthy for others.
Using that logic, would it be healthy for an individual who harbours fantasies of hurting his/her co-workers to act them out? If Yes, why? If No, why not?
To quote an old TV show: "Sometimes a persons greatest fantasies are about the things they cannot do"
