Deebra, here is the cut and dry. We are American. We have freedom. Your wife can be mad and hate what you wear, but the choice is your's alone how you dress. It works the other way too. You have as much say in what your wife wears as she does in what you wear. If she doesn't want to go anywhere with you because of how you are dressed, then 1. you change clothes 2. she doesnt go with you. If you do not like what she wears, then 1. she changes clothes 2. you dont go with her. Would you be comfortable with her going some place if she bound her breasts and wore a fake mustache? Me personally, I would not like my wife to do this, but if that's what she chose, I'd support her 100% in public, although I might tell her I didn't like it in private. It sounds like you have a control problem in your house. Your wife wants to be in control of YOUR emotions/desires. YOU and only YOU have to decide what is right for YOU. Maybe the unfairness she demands is too much and you have to have world war 3 to stand up for yourself. Who knows what is best for you. Maybe you need to be more demanding in how she dresses. If she expects you to dress in a style that is acceptable to her, she should do the same for you. Right?
