The panty example does resonate with me. The suggestion that I buy some sexier men’s briefs just leaves me cold. Zero appeal. Now the comparison is not totally accurate as even though they are slinkier they never are close to women’s. Heavier fabric, crappy colors etc
But it does give me a clue that I still like the taboo nature of wearing female garments, and if all started wearing, some of the allure would be gone. I am not fearful that that will ever happen however.
I often stand in front of my panty drawer making my selection of the day. I am elated that I have a full palette of colors and fabrics to chose from, as the drawer sparkles with such. For me that is part of the allure as well.
Bottom line to the original question is....”I just don’t know!”