Sandi;
I feel for both you and your wife. While it's easy to get caught up in things, we have to understand that actions have consequences. During the next couple of weeks you might want to prepare a letter and write down your thoughts especially about your feeling for your spouse. Reassurance can go a long way. Right now your spouse if feeling many things. Listen to what she says and remember that her feeling are her feelings and not yours. Remember not to invalidate them. You will have a lot of feelings too, Try not to fall into the False Guilt trap. This will be a test for both of you to see if you can develop some sort of understanding. It sounds as if she may have gotten some bad information from the internet regarding marriages within our community. There are many marriages here that are strong and good. It's a matter of finding balance. One of the most interesting things that I have found over the years is how generation this is. Unfortunately the older a couple is, the more set people are in their ways. Best Wishes
