I have a working definition of respect that helps a lot. Respect is the acceptance that someone, or something such as a feeling or idea or lifestyle, has validity BEYOND ones current understanding, and the subsequent treatment given to it. Your need/desire to dress has validity and your wife does not respect you, and likely never will. At minimum, I would move into the spare bedroom, but not out of the home. Then get a counselor for yourself; she won't go, at least right now. And consider getting a lawyer. Best of luck.
