Jade, you make it sound as if you reverted to a hairy ape, she'd "jump your bones." That may be. My wife and I are in a "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" marriage. We had "The Talk." She has no desire to be involved in my cross dressing. We hashed it out and after so many years of marriage I understand she has her own issues which would affect acceptance. I do nothing to "push it in her face." No body modifications. Fortunately my genetic code has given me no hair on my legs and minimal stray hairs on my chest. No hair on my back.
Your hairless body is a constant reminder for your wife. In some ways it is pushing your femininity in her face. I think it is imperative your wife engage in counseling; not necessarily to persuade her to accept your gender identity, but, to understand it. Your wife may have incorrect assumption about the issue. What it is and what it isn't. I read on another forum comments from a counselor that many women, even if not presented with a picture, create a visual image of their spouse attired as a woman. It is possible your wife has an image of you as Jade. It is possible your hairless body is just a crutch on which to hang her disapproval of your gender issues. If you revert to being a hairy ape it is possible nothing will change. She has deeper issues she needs to address. One of the issues in a marriage is addressing the fact there is an issue. Sometimes the first issue to address is embarrassment the issue exists at all. You and your wife need to hash it out with counseling.
If you're at least talking about it, perhaps she joining this forum and discussing it with the GG's would be productive.
