Quote Originally Posted by Lydianne View Post
Why do we care so much? Why don't we just allow them space to find out in their own time whether or not they are fetish dressers?


Any other category, we tell them "long journey", "own pace", "baby steps", etc. So why are we so desperate immediately to stick a fetish label onto the others?


It's certainly not done with the intention of helping them to own it because fetish dressers here are marginalised.
- L.
That's the point I am trying to make. If you allow yourself to be "marginalized" because of something that is a part of who you are, it's on you. We don't get to redefine a term because it makes us feel uncomfortable. No... we don't. Trust me. It took me a very long time to accept that the term transsexual applied to me. It is who/what I am and I will not be ashamed; will not be marginalized beyond what is within my ability to control.

Look, I'm not saying that a fetish dresser has to be "out and proud". There are plenty of valid reasons for not doing that. I am saying that those to whom the term applies should stop being ashamed of it.