This reminds me of how I dressed when my SO and I first started our relationship, and our only crossdressed outings at the time were to LGBTQ nightclubs. We eventually branched out to daytime outings to restaurants, art galleries, shopping, etc, but at first it was only to places where they had drag shows. Anyway, I usually wore plain black slacks, casual black low heeled ankle boots, and dark long-sleeved tops. No jewelry. I actually dressed down because I didn't want to show up my SO - I didn't want my SO to look masculine next to me, if I was all dressed up in nightclub wear. I was just so self-conscious about having people stare and honestly I didn't want to attract attention to us by dressing super sexy.Originally Posted by Robertacd
But then I did a 180? turn. I started to feel jealous of all the young, sexy GGs at the nightclubs that my SO kept staring at, and so I began to dress sexy to compete with THEM! And it worked! lol. It seems like another lifetime ago. But I hit bottom with that too. :p Now I just dress like myself, without thinking about how my appearance will or will not affect my SO. If we go to an event that requires wearing a dress, I wear a dress. Otherwise I dress casually. Our nightclub days are over with. :p
But getting back to the thread topic - CDers who say they look better than their wives. This is just such a GUY attitude and such a guy thing to say!!
Men are better socialized to self-promote than are women. We, (at least in my generation), were taught to not be immodest and so it is bad form for us to say out loud that we think we are prettier, or sexier (or smarter, or nicer) than another woman. It simply is a super-tacky thing to say. So when I read crossdressers brag about how much sexier, or prettier, or more feminine they are than their wives, I can't help but think they are decidedly behaving like men and decidedly not being feminine.
