It depends. I am in a DADT marriage. My wife and I had "The Talk" circa 1983. Since then not a word. Her choice. Total ostrich. If she chooses to not be engaged at all, what am I suppose to do? She did not tell me to "stop." In fact when we had "The Talk" she told me it was alright with her if I found a support group. I looked. There was none at the time. Still none in my area. I choose not to push the issue as I have come to the conclusion to push cross dressing against her will is nothing short of spousal mental abuse. At the time of "The Talk" I had a small collection of lingerie. It fit is a large gift box in the bottom of my armoire. Now my wardrobe of clothes in stored in twenty plus Xerox boxes and some other boxes; wigs, hosiery, 162 dresses, 400 + slips, hundreds of panties, etc. Economics? None of this has been a budget buster. Kids went to college on our dime. The grandkids educations are fully funded for five years. If my wife wanted to resume talking, I am all ears.
If you're in a relationship where you have established boundaries and you're engaging in "creeping" or goings outside those boundaries, then you may have a problem.
