Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Kelly View Post
Deliberate omission is, without question, a deception. A lie is the deliberate expression of a falsehood. The two are similar, but not the same. In a DADT situation, one partner has requested to not have to confront the reality of their partner's gender identity/expression. On the surface, that would seem to render any omission as forgivable, at worst.
Thanks for weighing in on this and clarifying. If one partner says they never want to see or know something about the other that to me is basically permission to go underground and continue. It's all a moot point in my case, my crossdressing world has crumbled around me. I have actually been considering purging and doing my best to avoid anything that would trigger an episode. Everything from my age to physical condition to my opportunity to shop or dress is dead in the water and I don't have any reliable transportation until I get vaccinated and get down to the dealer. I live in a rural area that is not open to this type of thing and my wife and I are together 24/7. I do not want to ruin the relationship and in spite of whatever I believe or do not believe I don't enjoy this frustrating fantasy world that my head has been in my entire adult life. If I can't do it and I'm not willing to walk away from a half century marriage I really have to ask myself what is worse, purging and dealing with an occasional round of pink fog or continuing to try to make an impossible situation work. My thinking was so dominated by this that I started therapy a year ago and it has not moved the needle one way or the other aside from my second thoughts about continuing in this impossibly frustrating situation. No worries, I am not one to become overly depressed and I am not standing on the precipice.