Back around 18 years ago there was a study done on the effect of the gender behaviors of a husband on the happiness of the wife. Not really a transgender study, but just a study to see what combination of gender forms make for the happiest relationship from the standpoint of the woman. Lots of couples carefully examined.
They found that the happiest wives were those married to men who definitely leaned a bit toward the feminine side. Some women expressed a feeling that their husband can be quite a bit more like me than the "typical" man.
It is also interesting that they found the least happy wives were those who were strongly feminine and married to men who were very strongly masculine. Those women feel confined, subordinate, even enslaved in the marriage. "All that matters is what my husband wants." kind of sensation.
The study did not include couples where the male is clearly transgender - or at least that was not identified even though some of the men in the "happy wives" group may have been gender variant. As we can see, acceptance of that much femininity in the husband is very challenging for most women. Perhaps a move in the right direction that goes too far for many women.
So, keep those helpful things going, Charlotte, but be careful to watch the reactions carefully to see if your wife gets a bit uncomfortable with some things that you do. Those are at or maybe a bit beyond her limit and your behavior makes her dysphoric.
