I think you missed my point. To me DADT assumes some degree that there will be CD'ing done in the home. If CD'ing is absolutely not allowed it is not DADT any longer, it is DON"T!
I guess I can understand the DADT where the spouse will never want to see any evidence, to the DADT where the spouse doesn't want to see you dressed, but an occasional piece of clothing forgotten is ok., but when it gets to you are not allowed to have any feminine stuff at all, that is not DADT.