How many times do I have to get busted?

[Dutchess]

First off I have to disagree with the first comment that suggests she doesnt love all of you, thats false. Every time I read that we dont love ALL of you I just cringe .She loves you ( so far ) just not the dressing.
Yes ,as we've said before we don't want a girlfriend ,we want a husband and that's why we marry you all , we should be best friends no matter how you dress .If you cant be our friends/companion without wearing a dress then you have bigger issues that us.

Read and re read posts from Krisi , DianeT ,and Stephanie. They have a good handle on how we (gg's) feel about stuff and they are not hoping their SO's vanish one day either.

With my two , my ex husband did not tell me. At all . Even when I asked what was up he lied and gaslit me. I dont think ever told the truth ., His woman became Monique ( his femme side ) ,period. He slowly fell for her until "she" became his partner so when he dressed I knew he would not care to be intimate with me and I really grew to hate her . I still do ,she absolutely ruined my life and his life too ...He talked about me in the cd/trans forums on FB the same way I see some of you talk about your SOs and its not right . Some of you need to let these women be with someone who actually loves them .. It became such an obsession with my ex ,that he could do nothing but dress ,sneak dress , fight to dress ,dally with other men ,you name it . Life just came to a standstill.

This here ^^^ is why I am less accepting today than I was. I wont let that happen to me again. Life is too short .

My late fiance ,I met him dressed ,he dressed ,in public even but , I was his entire #1 world in public , private . 24/7 and I knew it ,EVERYONE knew it literally until the day he died. He NEVER let me forget it . He would do this elegant glam androgynous male side just for me to enjoy frequently on his own and would never dream of getting rid of me so he could dress or complain/ be resentful about dressing etc etc . It really made a difference . He was actually afraid that I might die first and he be left not just alone but WITHOUT ME . Dressing wasn't on his mind 365 a year .. he also didnt try to force me to like anything .

^^^^^^ All this made a difference.

I do other stuff now.