There's a rainbow of fruit flavors when it comes to DADT. In my case, my partner discovered some time ago that I liked to dress. She reacted very bad and made it clear that it was unacceptable. The whole, I married a man and I expect you to be one, etc etc.
Same here Monica. Rather than DADT, I consider myself NANA - she'll Never Accept my crossdressing and I'll Never Admit that I'm still doing it. Yes, I know the deception is not good but it's either that or give up the other 95% of our life that is perfectly okay.
My Flickr profile
https://www.flickr.com/photos/142337725@N08/
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.