When I first came to this site, my husband did not know that I was online here.
I came for research. It felt like a better place than some sites that bash CDers.
That said, there were some alarming posts. I had to separate our situation; and not think all CDers thought and did the same things as those who were worrisome or disturbing.
Now I feel that there are many points that may be good conversational starters for a couple to talk about.