I am something of an exception: I still regard myself as a man named "John" even though I have the appearance of a woman and wear dresses and for formal occasions, makeup, nail polish, and heels. However my voice is deep for a man as I sing second bass in my church choir. I have been on estrogen for over 12:years and have acquired a feminine appearance, including a bust (bra cup size DD) and my hair is longer than shoulder length..
So I say don't worry about categorization of what you are.
John
