Hi Maggie
I very much understand what your trying to say here, and I totally understand what you mean by stress and it relationship to crossdressing (in a TV/CDer of course, and not all stress. My partner (Raksha) and I have both been on the recieving end of my frustration, drepression, and basically torment of not dressing for one reason or another.
We now thankfully (but it taken years) can see some light at the end of the tunnel, as although she has always been able to cope with my need to crossdress, (yet she has only seen me dressed about three times) I found it impossable to ask for space, or even to consult her about issues or even down to things I wanted to buy. thankfully now, I don't have the fears I used to, but i still find it difficult to ask, but now ensure I do.
Sadly I think the problem is that most hetrosexual tv's struggle to accept there wife might actually accept them being a crossdresser, and then when they actually pluck up the courage to actually tell them, for ever one we hear it wonderful and all a bed of roses between them, there are many others that just either never mention the subject again, or it rips a marriage or a relationship apart, for fear and misunderstanding.
Sadly, if any body types TV, CD, Crossdresser, Transvestite, etc, in to any web browser the first thing that appears is SEX. yep okay i'm the first to admit crossdressing is in a way a sexual thing, but I'm sure I'm not the only one that it means more to than just having sex. but sadly thats the view that anyone first searching for information on this subject is presented with, even her on this site we are presented with it in numerous threads, i'm not moaning about it, but to any GG, lady, woman, SO, partner searching for information as to what crossdressing is about, this is the first images and detials there presented with, dispite the fact that many TV/CD are Hetrosexual married men, with families, that have to hide there secret for fear of that label. even on this site, I still think it would be an improvement to have a non sexual forum where the subject is not mentions, lets hope huh!
Sadly most people don't understand the volumes of difference there can be in a group of crossdressers, there are many themes, and variations of crossdressing which sadly most people just don't understand or even have knowleadge of, ie most will say dresses in womans clothes? wierd, or another impresssion of, crossdressing which probably is actually totally wrong for the person in question. Yes there are gay TV's, bisexual, and streight, but the divide goes much deeper than just sexuality, but sadly most will judge us, on a very limited knowledge of the subject. because sadly from the top shelf to the internet, the art of crossdressing is related to Sex.
As for the religous ones out there that start quoting deuteronomy, this is my stance on this, and to be honest, I still don't know if I'm religous or not, but I try to live by christian values, and treat others as I wish and hope to be treated myself. (a very message the bible gives us!)
So if God is our creator, and he made all things, then clearly he made me, he made my person, my mind, my desires, my streights, and my weeknessess my likes and my dislike, therefore he also made me a crossdresser. if he made me what I am, he also gave me this drive and desire to at times look act, and be taken as a female at times in my life. WHY?
the Normal anwswer is well it a test, to see if you weeken, well if thats the case why did he give me a test I clearly will only fail at. He made me what I am, he gave me my desires and my dreams, so why after making me a good person, who tries to most of the time, speak good of most, and do well unto others, why give me such a cross to bear, and one he knows I could not carry!
So most of all, this thing we do, is I believe down to us, ie it's the way we are programmed, and it's up to us to carry our dressing to a level we are happy with. however no matter how ever happy we are with it, others will always judge us in one way, and that down to the knowledge of what is, and not sadly, who is.
just my :2c:
