Many transsexuals seem to subscribe to the theory that there is only one category of trangenderism and that we all fall somewhere along a spectrum from the mild shoe or lingerie fetishists at one end, through the part-time & full-time crossdressers, to the transsexuals who may just end up cross-dressing full-time, through to the full-on transsexuals who are firmly committed to the path of SRS. This theory has more holes in it than Swiss cheese.
Most crossdressers are simply crossdressers. We may fantasize about transitioning, but we don't really desire the reality. We generally have different attitudes & feelings to our gender & sexuality than transsexuals do. We like to play near the gender boundary, we don't want to cross it permanently. Of course, when we don't have access to good information about this material, it's easy to get confused by all the propaganda.
I have read a lot of biographical material of both crossdressers & transsexuals, including some full-length books. I have sympathy for the transsexuals, but I don't really identify with them, whereas I find it quite easy to identify with other crossdressers, even if their background & life experience is quite different to mine. FWIW, I actually find myself more in-tune with FTM transsexuals than with MTF transsexuals.
A crossdresser who doesn't want to transition is not a transsexual without enough courage. TSs that spread this BS just like to feel superior. Don't believe a word of it!
Robin