Quote Originally Posted by GG Vanya View Post
I keep reading, over and over, remarks by the CDs regarding "women can wear male attire and nothing is thought of it."

I asked this in the lounge on another thread, but I'd like to know:

Would you (CD's) deny GG's the right to wear whatever they choose, and do you not consider this reverse discrimination, given the fact that this is exactly the right you wish to obtain?

I thought about this today. The heat index here is 109 F, and as I was working it occurred to me that IF I was wearing a dress and hose, I most likely would have either ripped them off by 10 AM or suffered heat stroke!

Fortunately, the dress code for my job is lax, so I wore a "dressy" skort with a short sleeved blouse~much like what you see women wearing on the golf course.

Can any of you see my point? It has been a very long journey from the Ms. Cleaver shirtwaist dress and apron, to working outside the home, in jobs previously thought to be for "men only". Certainly with those changes, the dress codes and trends for women changed also~sometimes out of necessity, but also out of choice.

What I'm trying to say, without sounding offensive is: It seems there is a mindset for some who, in attempting to climb that ladder of acceptance, would just as soon step on the necks of those who have already fought this battle in order to get there.

I'd venture to say that 99.9% of the GG's here support your (CD's) right to dress as you choose. Please don't put us down for having already fought the battle you now fight. We're on *your* side!
Hi Vanya,

I feel that you're right on the money.

But let me play the devil's advocate here. These are NOT my opinions, just things that have occurred to me, and I'd like to hear other's opinions.

Might there be a double standard in the cases where a wife is non-accepting of her CD husband and gives him an ultimatum concerning what he can or can't wear? Think about it, how would a husband who tries to totally control how his wife looks be viewed?

Now I know what some might say: "I married a man and now he's decided to be a woman, and I don't find him attractive that way".

How about when a woman was a girly-girl before marriage and then decides to not wear makeup, cuts her hair short, starts wearing what are basically men's clothes and avoids skirts and dresses?

How about when a wife gains a huge amount of weight, or loses a lot of weight in cases where she was heavy before marriage and her husband likes her heavy?

In these cases, she has changed in ways that may easily affect her husband's attraction to her.

Do we fall in love with the person or with their image, an image that we may have constructed in our mind and may have nothing to do with the other person's reality?

Just some food for thought.

Carol, donning flack jacket and helmet