There are really no surprises in the replies. They range from agreement to personally I don't like boundries. Everyone needs boundries, that is life. Some people who don't have boundries end up in jail for their crimimnal behavior.
I agree with Vanya, how often and how many times must a person tell him that the boundries were important why would they be asked to agree to them????
If he is breaking the two rules you do have right from the starting gate then he does not respect them. I would be asking myself why in the world he would lie and agree to them if he had no intention of keeping them?
I would question his character. Maybe he is not the man for you?
Folks Let me tell you loud and clear. If you want your SO'S to accept you, you have to be patient and give them the respect of honoring their boundries. If you do not then you may end up losing your relationship.
If he did not feel comfortable with the boundries then he should have agreed with a time limit. Like, say a year. Give the poor wife a chance to know that you care enough to be honorable then renegotiate at the end of the time limit. If you respect boundries then you will get more respect and acceptance in return.
Act like adults, so many act like selfish children and it's very hard not to treat them as such. Kitty
