I totally agree with Jayne. underneath is still a man. we have listening problems. change the topic to sports or others, the behaviour could hardly be different. to manage that would be to talk to your SO and highlight that there are many moments when all you need is a listening ear.
my SO found me much more responsive and lovely after i read Man are from Mars and women from Venus by John Gray, and practised the ideas in there.
is CD an issue though? i think so too, because we can get insecure and just want to be involved all the time.
