I feel compelled to respond to threads like these, although i am not the great comunicator that some on this forum are.
I agree with the realization that all people, and situations are different and one must make lifes decisions based on their space and time in life.
I was with my x for 23 years. The first five years were wonderful. The second five years were ok. The last 13 years we were just living as room mates. Is this what I wanted? No, but it happened. I made the decision to accept my live as it was, and I would still be there if SHE had not decided to look for something different. Now I want to point out that I did not even know what crossdressing was at the time. So cd,ing had nothing to do with it.
My present SO and I met on the web. I was determined that any relationship I had from this point on would be based on truth, respect, and understanding.
I don't know why cd'ing reared it's head at the same time. But it did. I discussed my interest in cd.ing with my present SO befor we even met in person because I was no longer going to live with the feelings of never being able to express yourself for fear of saying or doing something wrong.
After 6 years we more in love with each other than ever. My SO accepts me for who I am, and I accept her for who she is.
So from my point of view. It does not matter what clothes you wear, or how you comb your hair.
IT'S THE LOVE YOU GIVE AND GET EVERY DAY THAT MATTERS!!!!!!
