Is rejecting/accepting your SO based on your PERCEPTION of the relationship?

[Sheila]

Well if there is a factual basis then that is not paranoia, but if there is no basis, then it is paranoia. If your partner is truthful then a SO's paranoia can be very hurtful. If your partner lies to you all the time then I guess they deserve all the paranoia that would entail.

Question: why would you choose to stay with a lying partner?

because in the beginning you hope that your suspicions are just that, suspicions, and when they prove not to be you continue to work on your relationship hoping that the lies and deciept stop, that you can step forward together into a more stronger relationship, built on truth and trust ........... when the lies and deception continue and for some it does, and when it gets too much, the relationship is ended ........... I know because we seperated on Monday of this week. I love the guy to bits I just can't live with the lies and deception ....... you see we don't always walk out at the first bump, for many the rollercoaster really does get way out of hand

If your partner lies to you all the time then I guess they deserve all the paranoia that would entail.

if they are lying then we are not paranoid are we......... and even if we are paranoid it don't mean they ain't out to get us:D