Originally Posted by
DebbieL
Elisa,
You bring up an issue that is too common to just leave sitting.
Your GF claims she loves you, yet she can't accept something so important that it's tearing you apart, sending you for "A couple bourbon glasses".
Suppose you were transsexual, would she stop loving you? If that were true, did she ever actually love YOU, or just an image you created.
You language also sounds a bit like domestic abuse. You're a psychologist, you know the pattern. The perp finds ways to tear away the victim's self esteem, pushing them to feel shame, guilt, fear, and that they are unworthy. Then they can take control of the victim, force them to do things that make them even feel even more guilt, shame, and fear.