Quote Originally Posted by Tinkerbell-GG View Post
Once we know you're a crossdresser you can't fool us with such excuses and in fact it becomes all the more painful and insulting as we know you're feminising yourself.
Sorry Tink, love ya but... wow So everything from point A on will be scrutinized by the SO as possible CDing activity? How about if the CD goes almost bald and decides to shave their head. Now we can see how this could be more comfortable but would the SO think "You did it to wear a wig"? What if they decided they wanted to take up a new hobby...say the stereotypical cooking or sewing? It seems that if the SO doesn't like the CDing, the CD is sort of between a rock and hard place forever.

Isha already covered the fact that people change. Beards get grey and don't look good. Eyebrows get bushy. Faces get wrinkled. All of these may require some sort of "correction". After all...hair on the back wasn't there when you were 23 and now at 50 yo look like a silverback gorilla.

I have been here long enough to know that either fear of being alone or honest love on the CD's part will keep them in a not ideal relationship. Sometimes hurting is the only feeling you can have in a relationship and you stay there because it is better than feeling nothing at all. We see this with a lot of relationships, especially with women who are in abusive situations. I agree the best choice is to walk away. That is the ideal choice but it often isn't that easy when you have been together for awhile (thus why I say tell early tell often).

I feel for the OP. I really does suck to be where you don't want to be. But venting here may make it more tolerable