Suzy, first of all, don't despair about this.
You know the only thing that was really off was maybe the blonde wig. But that is easily fixable.
I think you look more nautural with curly brown hair.

Gyod you look better than I do, which may not be saying much but anyways...

The things that may have gotten you read are probably all fixable.
We have all seen CD/TS who will just look like men no matter what but you are not one of them.
Did it ever cross your mind that maybe that guy recognised you from a time he may have seen you in drab? Or, just maybe, he thought you were HAWT and was checking out the fine looking lady quite close. I imagine even though he "read" you, he STILL thinks "what a fine looking woman!"

I think you are wanting to go run and hide a little too quickly. I know you are hurt cause god yes it does hurt to get read. But don't get so discouraged.