My wife once asked me, " Would you really be ready to lose your wife, family, and friends because of your crossdressing...?" We went into a vast discussion about whether cding was an addiction, etc, I told her I didn't want to lose anything, but...it sorta wasn't up to me about the losing part. That was up to her, and the kids and friends (if they found out) individually. I have been thinking about this and similar ideas.
My question is : Are we actually choosing cding over wife and family if we leave, or is it that the wife or family or friends are making choices themselves that require us to leave? For instance, if your wife says, " I can't handle this...don't want the kids involved with your cding... you need to move out..." , is leaving/divorcing really our decision? Wouldn't we be willing to stay if the wife and family were ok with it? Or not? Do some of us need to split (even with family acceptance) from the wife/family?
Clearly, if someones decides to leave without pressure from wife and family it is their own decision, and I would say, yes they are choosing this over wife/family. I am not debating the merits of that (maybe they were Ts, or almost TS), just saying they made their decision based on what they thought was best, but it was their choice.
Your thoughts are appreciated.
