I think few would dispute that in an ideal circumstance a CD should be honest about their CDing early on.

Of course theres a lot of things that make a circumstance not ideal that many discuss here a lot already.. self-acceptance, the trust involved in coming out early, the risk of being outted publicly, fear of burdening the family etc.

But I think it's worth considering the broader issue.

If we say a CD should come out to their partner early, despite the dangers to the relationship, family, job, career etc...

Then shouldn't the CD also be honest to everyone? Shouldn't they be honest to Parents, children, siblings, cousins, workmates and on to cover everyone? Certainly some of these relationships are more important than others but shouldn't CDs be honest in all of them?

Shouldn't SO's? Shouldn't they risk their families, their friendships, their jobs even by being open about being in a rlationship with a CD (as well as any skeletons in their own closets)? Essentially if a SO thinks a CD should confess they are a CD despite the risk of others judgement should not the SO be willing to eqaullly share that burden?

But this drives me to a far stronger conclusion than simply avoiding hypocracy.

If an SO thinks that CDs should come out early, do they not have a responsibility to make it easier for all CDs to do so?

So if an SO thinks CDs should be out to them from the outset don't they have a responsibility for working towards transgender civil rights and social acceptance? The very things that would protect their partners job but also make it easier for future CDs to come out to their partners and at least make things easier on the next generation?

And then I consider the evidence that there is a genetic aspect to being transsexual and that the scientists behind many of these discoveries think this will be true for all forms of transgender. Which means that the children of CDs will have a greater chance of being CD/TS...

So then don't SOs have a responsibility to strive for TG rights and acceptance for their childrens or grandchildrens sakes?

This seems to me the consequences of concluding that CDs should be honest with their partners. What do you think?