its a tricky question and touchy based on some of the responses.i kept my cding a secret for approx 28 years before telling my wife and during that period of secrecy it was hell at times,nobody to talk to,nobody to answer questions,at times i thought that my head would be no longer capable of handling it and that i was going insane.when i told my wife and 4 close female freinds it was such a relief to have somebody to talk to,shop with etc,i now wish i had told them many years ago.when it comes to kids,parents and freinds they have not been told and that will remain,yep i would love to tell them,but take my kids 4 example they would be ridaculed at school for having two mommies,proberly bullied,i would not put them through that.some people may differ but they are my views,i think this is a debate that i could write a book on but i dont have the time or space on this site.in a nutshell i am happy with things the way they are at present with my situation,taking baby steps i guess.have a great weekend ladies.
