The Honesty Conundrum

[Tamara Croft]

It wasn't that long ago you made the claim that we as CD's were liars. Nothing to do with the children but more in reference to the OP that we should disclose all and be honest.

Exactly! so why are you even bringing this up? My thread was about lying to your SO, not your children, I never even mentioned children. I never told them they had to be honest either, I just wanted to know why they hid it. I would NEVER tell a person to come out to anyone unless that's what they wanted to do. And many people do not want to come out in their towns, they are quite happy to stay in the closet, without all their neighbours etc knowing... Just because people aren't shouting it from the roof tops, doesn't mean they aren't supportive.

When Batty said we should be totally open and honest you tell her to lie. It can't be both ways.

This is irrelevant, I never told anyone to be honest... I asked why they lie...

You have explained before how you have raised your children to be open and tolerant. Exactly what age does this kick in? Batty would do it immediately you have a different time table.

It kicks in when my partner says it kicks in, it's up to him when I tell them, not me, it's not my place. As for the rest, I raised them from birth to be tollerant of all, to be open minded, not to judge etc... like you're doing to me right now, judging the way I choose to tell my children, when it's NOT up to me to tell them about Tam is it! He already had his sister out him to her partner and it's caused them to become extremely distant, you think going via battys way is right then?

If we could only make decisions on if we have done something, i.e. having children, diminishes the discussion by limiting input. You give your input on "dressing" yet I doubt you have ever been a M-F CD. The idea of this forum is to educate and support.

Well duh, what a stupid thing to say, of course I'll never be a MTF CD, I'm a woman :rolleyes: But I live with a CD, I can give as much input as I possibly can, I ask him questions about it, maybe I should show him this thread, tell him that unless we're all shouting from the rooftops about living with TG's, we're not doing our bit... w/e...

I do not and never will support Battys idea of telling all, it's not my place and that means I'm not supportive, so be it :brolleyes: