I opened this thread because to often the wives and girlfriends of Crossdressers and TGs who come out long into a marriage or relationship are made out to be the bad ones. Gender variance of any kind is a very difficult thing for people to understand and deal with, not to mention being blindsided by it.
I realize some are very cool with it and are very supportive and thats wonderful. I also recognize that others although they dont like this part of their husbands or boyfriends life work very hard through their fears and issues to be supportive, out of love, which to me is absolutely beautiful!
Heterosexual women are attracted to men! Is it really some big mystery? They are not internalizing homophobia! That was an actual response I read recently about why women reject TGs "fear of homosexuality in themselves no other reason" I have never heard anything so silly in my life! They are not closed minded! They are attracted to men!
And fore those women who just can't cope with the reality of their husband or boyfriend being CD/TG or can't get past the broken trust issues, or the fear, or societal pressure, or whatever other reason associated with this lifestyle or condition or whatever label you want use. Shouldn't be vilified for saying I cant take it.
I also just wanted to say I was fully prepared to have my marriage end when I came out. Thankfully it didn't I would have been heartbroken and devestated. But I recognized the fact that this was a dealbreaker and told her so. Not only that but the lying and betrayal as well. Women do not sign up for this!
