Crosdressing can be an irreconsilabe difference!

[Kathi Lake]

Some of the responses concerning women and their reaction to thier partners crossdressing have been mean, others are just silly.

I know where you're coming from, Daphne, but what do you mean by 'mean?' Mean in that they were astonished and their worldview rocked, and sometimes wrecked? That to them, it isn't "just clothes" but something much more fundamental? That the man they married, that they dreamt about and grew up knowing exactly what he would be like, isn't like that at all?

And what do you mean by silly? She thinks it is silly that her husband was hiding something so huge from her, and she now wonders what else he's hiding? Silly in that she only knows of "trannys" what she has seen from the world - that they're all promiscuous drag queens who want to change their sex, steal someone's boyfriend and go on Jerry Springer?

I hope that we never make light of just what we do to the majority of women in our lives when we decide to say, "You know, dear, I'd like to start dressing in women's clothes and go out and do stuff." Mean and silly are understatements at times for the reactions we do receive. Is there compassion, acceptance, and even participation from some? Sure, though unfortunately rare.

Unfortunately, I kind of feel this is what is happening lately in my relationship.

Oh, Sara! I am so sorry!

Kathi