hi kim sorry that you are going through a rough time at present,and the problem is not between you or your wife ,like most things its with other people, and there out look on life as to what is right or wrong . the problem with people when they say ",we dont wont thoes kind of people " or words to that effect ,but no one knows whats hiding in there closet .its easy to say dont worry ,but we all do , like ever one has said you love your wife and she loves you that is all that matters, bye for now tina