Not much I can add Kim, except that life is seldom fair. I think you are an awesome person and if others don't want to be around you then it's their loss.
Emily Ann
Not much I can add Kim, except that life is seldom fair. I think you are an awesome person and if others don't want to be around you then it's their loss.
Emily Ann
Living with a heel in each world.
Kim,
I wish there was something profound I could say to make everything right. Unfortunately, we cannot put the genie back in the bottle.
For the past few years I have come to this forum looking for acceptance and validation; I have found it. Being here has given me confidence, and when I read posts about those who have come out to family, friends, and co-workers, and who have ben showered with support and love, it makes me think that someday I too will be able to come out--on my own terms, of course.
It pains me to read your story. I can only hope that you and your wife together can overcome the hatred shown you. It's very sad that your wife has to be the victim, but she is fortunate to have you. Be her strength, and know that for every Witch there are hundreds of friends here that support you.
Peace,
-Dayna
Self-professed godess of Photoshop... because a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do!
I totally agree with Salandra: the only thing you are guilty of is loving your family and being yourself. You don't cause people's bigotry. "Those kinds of people"- ignorant hateful people make up stories about what black people, latinos, gays & lesbians, crossdressers, etc. are like.
You're not a murderer, you're not a pedophile, you're not a drug addict... in the 21st. century crossdressing should be no big deal. Your wife gets to see the truth about some of the people at work. Real friends can be found anywhere, who wants to hang out with people filled with hate?
I really feel your pain. I have felt that same pain myself at times in my own life. I wish there is something that I could do for you to help you out. A magic wand would be great right now.
What I can do it tell you that I think you are a great person. I'll even go so far as to say that I love you. I have read so many of your stories and you have always lifted me up and inspired me. I thank you for that. I hope that you can do the same for your wonderfull wife.
I hope God will give you the courage to win this battle that you are fighting. And your family stays hole and gets stronger because of it.
P.S. I wish I could have made it to Boston and met you last month. good luck and I'm pullen for ya. lots of love Paula
keep on gurlin everyone. paula may
So very sory to hear about all that , if you were here i would give you a hug , hope you can sort it out for the both of you xxxx
Be part of the solution
Not the problem
Hi TX Kimberly! First let me say, that I think that you are stunningly beautiful! From reading your other posts, I gathered that you were in Pershing missles. I was also in Pershing. I was in the 56th FAB in the early 70's in Germany.
Let's chat darlin, you seem sweet. You are very pretty.
A person whom one knows well and cherishes. These people, I
use the word loosely are not friends.
Give your wife a big hug & kiss tell her How much you love her.
You two are the closest friends 2 people can have.
Keep Your Head Up High
Alena
Kim
As I was reading your post I started to cry. I have been reading your posts for sometime now and I know how much you love your family and how much this latest development hurts you. Kimberly is a wonderful person but never forget I also she her as a good husband and Father. You are very blessed you have such an understanding wife, people can be cruel and they will lash out at those you love. You wouldn't be the husband and farther you are withuout Kimberly it's a paradox the very thing that is our strength can be seen as a weakness by others. Be strong and I will keep you and your family in my prayers
Kris
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hi kim sorry that you are going through a rough time at present,and the problem is not between you or your wife ,like most things its with other people, and there out look on life as to what is right or wrong . the problem with people when they say ",we dont wont thoes kind of people " or words to that effect ,but no one knows whats hiding in there closet .its easy to say dont worry ,but we all do , like ever one has said you love your wife and she loves you that is all that matters, bye for now tina
Sorry to here what has happened, we just have to deal with the witches and hags of the word, but our family shoud not have to. Your wife is a keeper.Originally Posted by TxKimberly
Anna
Sorry to hear about all this---would you like Me to come to Texas and give the offending parties a public whipping?? Sounds exactly what those two "ladies" deserve. However in the overall scheme of things, not being invited to a "couples" baby shower--called a Jack and Jill in Maine btw---is not the end of the world---the good thing is that Austin is a big area with lots of people, many of whom are intelligent, charming, attractive and tolerant---those are the ones that you and your SO should hang with. Not the intolerant harpies with their heads up their you know whats.
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The telling point is the phrase "Those kind of people". Wouldn't it be great to sit that ignorant woman in a chair and say, "OK what does that mean exactly?" She probably has no idea. And if she could explain herself it would be one ignorant statement after another.
I can understand you feeling bad but it shouldn't be because of what you are, but because of what OTHER people are.
That's terrible ... cops often get a bad rap (sometimes with good reason) but theirs is not an easy job...
The whole thing with fake friends is this - some people keep "friends" just to make it look like they are popular. We know good friends are very hard to come by once we get out of school. Too busy of lives.I once had a very similar thing happen in my life. When I first started going out with my wife, we had some relationship issues. My then friends knew all about what was going on.
My then girlfriend and I went to a party at their house and I over heard the wife say "I don't want that bitch at my house"
That night I found out what they were really like. True friends don't say things like that. They accept you for who you are and what you do.
That was the last I saw them.
I married that girl 14 years ago, now have a good house with a white picket fence, 3 great kids, and overall a good life.
Living well is the best revenge.
They have divorced after the wife found him cheating on her for the third time. He has had probably 20 differant jobs and is living out of some old trailer somewhere, hooked on cocaine a whole host of other drugs along with his drinking problem.
Sounds like some of the F-wits i work with. Too bad the husband didn't have a CD girlfriend, that would have REALLY bothered the wife.
Moral to the story, Friends like that are not real friends. You are better off without them in your life. Enjoy the person you value the most. That is your wife. She is the true friend, She is by your side no matter what, and I would bet that she will never say anything like that.
The marriage vows say something about "foresaking all others". The spouse is suppose to be the #1 person in your life. For Kim, it sounds like they are each others' best friend.
Raychel
Kim, your language in describing these a******s in your life is quite mild. Of course you are a lady. Also look on the bright side - at least now you don't have to buy gifts for that woman who could not keep her legs closed.
It takes a true Erin to be a pain in the assatar.
Kim, I hope everything works out for you. People can really be mean and inconsiderate.
Hugs, Delilah
Kim, I have read many of your posts and they have always been thoughtful and insightful. I for one can't think of any advice to give you except love your wife now more than ever. I draw a blank when I think of how I would handle this situation. I still wonder what kind of people "those kind of people" are.
all my best wishes to you and your wife she needs your support and im certain she is getting it . she is a terriffic person for her support in you and she deserves your support. as my loving mother used to say you can choose your friends but you are stuck with your relatives all the best and hope it works out for both of you caryn
Can I say anything to make you feel better right now? Probably not, but what I am going to say has served me well when I've been faced with daunting situations.
The German philosopher Neitche said, "What doesn't kill me makes me stronger"! Also remember that steel is tempered by fire. The steel is your and your wife's relationship, the fire is what you're both going through right now. This will make your love stronger and you'll be closer in the long run.
Please remember that tough times do not last, tough people do! Give her and accept from us a big HUG!
Dana Fleming
Oh Kim – The thing is you haven’t done anything wrong – you’re just a victim of someone else’s prejudice. It’s not as if you’ve run around telling everyone at work about the CD side of life. This is the same as someone spreading around a false rumor about a person – as it’s very difficult to defend yourself without highlighting the subject.
We have friends and we have acquaintances -
Anyone who gives you a hard time over this were never true friends in the first place - just acquaintances.
We’re all thinking of you and I’m sure it will all settle down in the end.
Holly,
Just the perfect answer! Kim, you didn't do this. Spiteful people did. I know that it does not change what you feel. I know that if it was just you, it probably would not have hurt as much. Knowing that society is the problem does not make it easy, even if it is true.
I used to sell services for an armored car company. They employ off duty cops, and cop wanna-be's.
I went to a Be-All (convention in the MidWest) and while I was there, I had my wallet picked out of my purse in a bar. It ruined the weekend (NOTE: Never, ever carry your purse over your shoulder, tucked behind your arm. I see GG's do that now, and it makes me grit my teeth!) When I got back to work the following week, people asked me how my vacation was. Offhandedly, I said, "Oh, OK, but my wallet was stolen." Oh? where did you have it? "Oh they took it right out of my purse." The jig was up. I was outed at work. I wound up leaving, because the crap got kind of thick.
I look back now, and that was a really S***** place to work. I hated the place. If it were not for that slip of the tongue, I might still be there, and I have moved on to much greener pastures.
If those people are that spiteful, best to find out now. Purge them, and make your life better for it.
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So I turned myself to face me, but I've never caught a glimpse
Of how the others must see the faker,I'm much too fast to take that test.
And these children you spit on, as they try to change their worlds,
Are immune to your consultation, They're quite aware of what they're going thru!
Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes David Bowie
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My gosh Kimberly, what a nightmare. It amazes me how some people can be so narrow minded and judgemental.
SamiLiving in feminine bliss
Well everyone, I spoke to my wife some more about this tonight. She is honestly not upset, and trust me, if she was upset she WOULD let me know! lol
The funny thing is that she said much the same thing that many of you have said here "Screw 'em if they have a problem!" lol
As my only pain was thinking that I had hurt my wife (however indirectly) I'm OK now. If she's not hurt, then I'm not. I honestly couldn't care less what these people think or know as long as they don't hurt my wife because of it.
I thank you all for your genuine concern. If y'all are "That kind or people" then I'm OK with that and proud to be a part of it.
Hugs from Texas!
[SIZE="3"]Wonderful Kim, You have a fantastic wife I thinks She's a keeper. I am Happy for both of you!!!!
Born female intended
" Don't die with your music still in you!"
<Stands up, next to KimberleyTX>I'm proud to be one of, "those people."
Fulltime girl on the inside.
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