Interesting read so far. I was married for 19 years and hid it. We talked about it after the fact because of the kids. When we talked about it she said a lot things of made sense. My S/O and I met online. AFF actually. Her headline was "Wanted, REAL MAN"... well I couldn't let that one go. So I was persistant and we sparred via email for about 3 weeks when she sent her phone number and said iether call or go away. I told her I was like no one she has ever met. We talked on the phone a few times and then met. She was married twice before so I told her "Maybe your version of a real man is just a stereotypical real man and maybe you should try something different". So we started dating on 10/1/06 and have been together ever since. In the beginning I made her promise total honesty about past even if it sucked to get into and I would do the same. I told I want to know now so there are no suprises later. I guess I decided that I would rather be alone and true to me instead of with some one who make me feel trapped. No, this because of a new relationship, but I think that not being able to be who you are is a real way to shorten ones life... the stress and depression with kill you.
