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My name is Carol
Hi Tessa,
I'll certainly agree that a SO should be told early on in the relationship, but I'd argue about the "sacred" part, depending on how you're intending that term to be interpreted. I think you're using it to imply that marriage should be an absolute bond of trust between two people, and if that's what you mean, then I agree. I'm not at all in agreement with your statement about marriage being made by God for Adam and Eve.
And I'll agree with tess-leigh that relationships are not "one size fits all", so I can't say that hiding one's CD side from a spouse is 100% always the wrong thing, but I will agree that it's not the ideal way to behave, in general. Sometimes we have to play the hand we're dealt, not the one we wish we were dealt.
I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt as far as the tone of your posting goes, sounds like you were having a bad day and decided to post a rant here. You're apparently young, so I'll give you the advice I'd give one of my grown kids: when you're PO'ed about something, write down what you're angry about, say whatever you want to say, don't hold back, be as outrageous as you want, but write it on a piece of paper and put it away for a few days. Then, after you've calmed down, take the piece of paper out and read what you wrote, and if you still feel the same way, then maybe share it, but don't post stuff in a public forum when you're angry, it's just not a good idea, and I know from experience of what I speak. :-(
Carol
P.S. On re-reading your posting, I just noticed what you ended with: "I know you're not real women like me", that is a very low blow. You're a transexual woman, pre-op at that, and there are other TS women here. This sort of holier-than-thou attitude from some TS's has been a very real thorn in the side of the T-community for many years, and you really ought to be ashamed of yourself for going there.
Last edited by Julogden; 11-20-2008 at 11:48 AM.
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