I was amused to read some of the posts on this thread. As one of the more senior (in actual age!) members of this forum, I thought it was time to put my two cents in! That is :2c: based on actual life experiences gained over many years. Not from a book, off the internet, or what someone else said, but from my own life.

It would appear that many of you have no clue as to what "marriage" means. If that offends anyone I am sorry. But it does apply even to those who have been married and are now divorced, or on number 2 or 3 wife. Marriage is a Sacred obligation for a lifetime, and should be regarded as such. Someone said that "most people who are married shouldn't be." I don't think that "most" is the correct word in that statement. Many people should not be married, for many different reasons. If you are not willing to make the total committment that is necessary for a marriage to work, then you should not get married. Part of that committment is full and complete honesty between both parties. If you cannot, for whatever reason, do that you should not be married!!

The notion that our views of marriage should change because society has changed are ludicrous. Society has not changed in that regard, a segment of society has discarded moral values in favor of "what makes ME happy" values.

To not tell your wife about your CD activities is a total copout. But the time to tell her is BEFORE she becomes your wife. If you want to live with her for the rest of your lives, then you have to be totally honest about who and what you are. If she cannot, or will not, accept that you are a CD, then you need to find someone else.

I told my late wife before I proposed to her. She was not only accepting, but also said she would teach me a lot about being feminine. We had a very happy marriage for 49+ years before she passed away. I loved her very deeply, and still do! But if she had told me that she could not accept my CD'ing, I would have found someone else! I could not. and will not, live a life of deceit!

Sorry for the length of this post, I just got a little P.O.'ed.

Stephanie

Lady on the outside, but man underneath!