so let me ask this the simple fact of knowing has made it impossible for us to be intamate. my husband has never acted on this and as i said it just came out of the blue...so basicly i am supposed to sit on the side and never have sex with him? then whats the point of being married? he wants to be a female with out the surgery (his own words) and thats not what I need nor what I want. yes alot of you gave great advice but the only thing that i can think of to do is what I have done. I have told him I cant have sex with him or even sleep in the same bed with him till he can tell me he doesnt want this. I understand alot of you are in accepting relationships but im not you. for me this does change him and the way i feel about him.we have a marriage counseling appointment next week but as i said i cant continue this marriage till he can tell me this isnt what he wants and if he cant do that then maybe the answer is a divorce....saddly something I would have never suggested if this never came up. I to believe in not throwing that around. His expectations if I let him do this is as follows:
He wants me to have sex with him analy while dressed as a female
He wants to feel like a female with out having to spend the money for the surgery
He wants me to be part of all of this and wants to basicly live as a female
You guys sit here and asked me what he wanted out of this and what he wants I cant give him I cant stay married to him with knowing that he even thinks about it. We never had issues in the bed room unless he sleeps with a guy which when alot of you I guess assumed was recently. Our marriage has had alot of problems this is just the topping of the cake.
