I just don't fit!

[jruiz]

I'm gonna jump in on this complaint - I'm 6'4", 230 lbs, and that's all a nice beer belly. I could lose it if I exhibited any self control, but I always "will get to it tomorrow." I used to be 180 at the same height, so I really hate my body right now, and it looks nothing if not thoroughly masculine. So, quit you're griping! And I mean that in a semipositive manner.

That is, you're in a far better place than many of us. So go out there, look for inspiration, and deal with it. You'll figure out some ways to get it right.

Hi Kathryn,

Not sure about what "semipositive" means, I guess that the same as "seminegative"...

I don't mean to annoy anyone with my post, I'm just being honest and it's just the way I feel. I understand that I'm in the middle, and this is what really bothers me. All I know is that I still can't get a decent look.

Some gurls here are much bigger/heavier than me and have great results. It's not just a matter of size, but a matter or shape.

Actually, I find that the most passable gurls around here are the ones that are very skinny or that carries some additional weight. And actually, I think that the larger ones are the most convincing ones. But again, too skinny or too heavy will not be healthy for me and will not make me good look as a guy.

Maybe I just have to work harder selecting my wardrobe. I'll try to post my pictures and ask for some help. Stay tuned...