Quote Originally Posted by jruiz View Post
Hi Kathryn,

Not sure about what "semipositive" means, I guess that the same as "seminegative"...
As in "quit bitching." And the reason that's as much positive as it is negative, it comes down to "You'll never get anything accomplished griping about it."

I think it's appropriate to invoke Rocky Horror here: Don't dream it, be it.

I whined a lot at first (I whine about everything), saying that I am too tall, I have too big of feet, my shoulders, my stomach, my big... well, we'll just suffice it to say, big man all around. (I kid, I kid!)

First thing's first, if you're worried about your arms, you need to draw attention away from them. Sleeves for example, but you can go with some attractive 3/4 sleeves. Also, a good way to deal with arms and broad shoulders is learning to walk like a woman, with your shoulders thrown back. Also, learn how women move their bodies, from the hips vs the shoulders, as I recall.

There are a thousand tips out there, but makeup, walking, and some other subtle mannerisms do more than looks. Practice those, then work on clothing.

Where do you live? If you live in a city that is at all GLBT friendly, you won't have much of a problem. Typically, you're best off going to places like second hand stores because few of them have an issue with you trying on tons of clothes and not buying anything. That way you get a feel for what is what.

Not all of these tips may be 100% accurate, but it's way better than nothing, and you get something to start with.